It took me a while to publish this post because I was not sure if publishing my view on this topic would be a worthwhile or if anyone would read it. But, I decided to hit ‘publish’ and share my thoughts with you so here it goes…
Growing up, I would often hear the phrase ‘she is a feminist’ and more often than not, this phrase would usually be associated with women who other people deemed to be ‘man-haters’. I was curious as to why this was so but I would shy away from being associated with the word ‘Feminist’ or I would reside myself to the fact that I would be indifferent about what that ‘F-word’ actually meant.
In most cases, I have been told by people (mostly guys) that I am ‘too independent’, ‘too outspoken’ and in some cases, being told by males who have traditionalist views on the role of females, that my assertiveness is wrong because it makes me come across as being ‘too cheeky’. In their eyes, females are not meant to have an opinion or challenge anything. Just because I value equality between men AND women, does not mean I am anti-men or a ‘man-hater’ but I was cautious of ‘how much’ of my opinion could I actually share. In fact, I feel society does not do a good enough job of uplifting and appreciating the men that do good and appreciate the value of seeing a female as an equal counterpart.
Which brings me to the question of why we tell young girls that they ‘run/hit like a girl’? I mean, HOW else are they supposed to run or hit if their biological makeup is that of being a female? Why has ‘being a girl’ been belittled to something of lesser importance or lesser strength? I do not have kids but if I ever do have kids and they happen to be girls, how do I protect them just enough so as not to ‘cover up’ the harsh realities of life today? How does one raise strong girls without compromising their right to be content with being a girl? I know there is no set formula to follow but this is my biggest conundrum to get right.
I am not an expert on the topic of Feminism or Feminist theory but I feel that as a cisgender (educate yourself & Google this term!) female, it is my duty to continue to educate myself and others to ensure the ‘F-word’ is used in an empowering way rather than to build on societal structures of what and how ‘being a feminist’ has been perceived to be.
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